Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it. – Proverbs 22:6 (NIV)
I was a police officer for nearly 20 years. I served as a Violent Crimes Investigator for almost 4 of those years. During that time I had the opportunity to observe interaction between parents and their children with various aspects of the public, as well as in their homes. Some of those observations I’ll be sharing with you in an effort to see where knowledge and following the word of God will help in all situations. I’m locked in on Proverbs 22:6 for right now because I feel this verse is the foundation of releasing rounded adults when our children reach that age.
One day, while at a school, I’ve seen mothers come through the door in a rage because they had to be there. I thought they were angry at their child, but later found out they were angry and became confrontational with their child’s teacher. I’ve seen parents chew out a teacher right in front of the child. There was an incident where a child’s mother came in the school and assaulted a teacher, fighting in front of the child. So here’s a suggestion:
If you have determined your child’s teacher is wrong. Please! And I say…PLEASE!!! Don’t come unglued in front of your child. The word of God has a verse that will help us when we have become angry;
“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry… – Ephesians 4:26
Yes. Sometimes teachers aren’t fair. Yes. Sometimes it seems they have singled your child out. The best way to handle this is to wait until the child is out of earshot and discuss it with the teacher and reach a solution together. If that doesn’t work, here’s a verse God has given us for an example:
“If your brother or sister sins, go and point out their fault, just between the two of you. If they listen to you, you have won them over. But if they will not listen, take one or two others along, so that ‘every matter may be established by the testimony of two or three witnesses.’ – Matthew 18:15-16
In other words take your concern to that particular teacher and he/she alone. Talk to them about it. If they aren’t receptive or your grievance hasn’t been satisfied, they have supervisors, take the matter to one of them. Why this post you ask? Because if I go to my grandchild’s teacher and have a fit in front of the child, I have done several destructive things:
- I have stripped the authority of the teacher and told my child in a non-verbal way he doesn’t have to listen to the teacher.
- I have taught my child the best thing to do when disagreeing with someone is to cuss them out, be rebellious and foster the potential for a physical altercation between your child and figures of authority.
Heavenly Father, it is my prayer this post and the ones following will help somebody when it comes to raising their children. In Jesus’ name – Amen.